Welcome to Hope for Grieving Mothers

If you are new to this club (that no one asked to join- the one where your child has died), it is best to start by going to the BOTTOM RIGHT and look at the "Pages" section. Under this section you will find resources for mothers who are grieving the loss of their child. Resources to help your children deal with grief are also grouped together.

Next, feel free to look at the "Blog Archives." There are many topics that you may have an interest in reading. As you girlies know, we now have Teflon brains and often cannot have the focus power that we have had in the past. Feel free to come here often and hopefully you will FEEL the loving support that me and other mamas are sending. Hopefully you will begin to see sparks of hope for your future...

Hugs... Pamela

Friday, February 8, 2013

Winter and SAD... This season of your life

Anyone in this club SAD? That is an absurd statement! Isn't it?! Actually during the Winter months, there is a disorder called SAD (Seasonal Affective Disorder) which can compound your sorrow. Read about it below....

"Seasonal affective disorder (also called SAD) is a type of depression that occurs at the same time every year. If you're like most people with seasonal affective disorder, your symptoms start in the fall and may continue into the winter months, sapping your energy and making you feel moody. Less often, seasonal affective disorder causes depression in the spring or early summer.

Treatment for seasonal affective disorder includes light therapy (phototherapy), psychotherapy and medications. Don't brush off that yearly feeling as simply a case of the "winter blues" or a seasonal funk that you have to tough out on your own. Take steps to keep your mood and motivation steady throughout the year.

In most cases, seasonal affective disorder symptoms appear during late fall or early winter and go away during the sunnier days of spring and summer. In either case, symptoms may start out mild and become more severe as the season progresses.

Fall and winter seasonal affective disorder (winter depression)
Winter-onset seasonal affective disorder symptoms include:

-Depression
-Hopelessness
-Anxiety
-Loss of energy Heavy, "leaden" feeling in the arms or legs
-Social withdrawal
-Oversleeping
-Loss of interest in activities you once enjoyed
-Appetite changes, especially a craving for foods high in carbohydrates
-Weight gain
-Difficulty concentrating "


Girlies-- Now that you have read about SAD, let me explain what has helped me. For starters, I attempt to capture more sunlight. I KNOW it is winter and it is COLD outside so think about putting on a warm winter coat and gloves and taking a walk outside when the temperature is milder. Also, try to sit in front of a window with natural sunlight. I have found a spot at work that lets the sun pour into the chair that I sit in. You can actually go to places for "light therapy" but I have found them to be quite expensive. One alternative that I cannot recommend to everyone is to go to the tanning bed for short periods... It is light therapy afterall. It may sound silly but the light and Vitamin D helps in tiny doses.

Also, I firmly believe that remaining in contact with your primary care physician is important. Discussing these symptoms with your doc is important as well. Antidepressants can be a healthy tool to help your brain deal with the really crappy unimaginable reality.... That your child has died.

Most importantly, recognize that winter has a purpose. Just as winter is just a season in our life, so is the depth and pain of the grief that you feel. Many average folks out there feel like slugs and want to stay home and in their Jammie's all day during the winter. This is the way that we will feel..... but magnified.

Still try to stretch and move your body. Be mindful of keeping a healthy balance between keeping a schedule but also conserving your energy.

Remember that winter is a season of the year and life.... Of your life as well. Hold onto these words mamas... Where you are now, you will not always be. Spring will come.... Eventually. Keep putting your tootsies on the floor everyday. Hugs to each and every one of you...

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