Welcome to Hope for Grieving Mothers

If you are new to this club (that no one asked to join- the one where your child has died), it is best to start by going to the BOTTOM RIGHT and look at the "Pages" section. Under this section you will find resources for mothers who are grieving the loss of their child. Resources to help your children deal with grief are also grouped together.

Next, feel free to look at the "Blog Archives." There are many topics that you may have an interest in reading. As you girlies know, we now have Teflon brains and often cannot have the focus power that we have had in the past. Feel free to come here often and hopefully you will FEEL the loving support that me and other mamas are sending. Hopefully you will begin to see sparks of hope for your future...

Hugs... Pamela

Monday, September 2, 2013

Pop tarts and the Grief Dance

The unexpected moments of missing our children will knock us over. I'm visiting my son, daughter in law, and my little grand baby in Tennessee. My son and I popped into a grocery store. As a single gal living alone, my dietary habits are pretty consistent as are my grocery store habits. As I was browsing through the store, I noticed a pop tart display.  When I looked at it closer, I saw that they were Pumpkin Pie Poptarts. My breath was knocked away as I remembered that my Logan LOVED Poptarts and also loved Pumpkin Pie. I gasped out loud and quickly went to another aisle as I felt a wave of nausea.  My son was puzzled as I had gentle tears in my eyes.  

It wasn't the memory of Logan that caught me off guard...  It was the fact that time and the world has continued to move along without him. 

I share these personal stories with you because it's important that you know that these thoughts and feelings and surprises are a commonality that we share. 

As we continue to "grieve forward", its also important to know that "forward" isn't always a linear path. Three steps forward and two steps back....  Try to seek out beauty along this path as we make the forward and backward path. 

I was able to remember the beauty of my personal  "grief dance" and surprise later when I remembered a specific visual memory of Logan eating an entire pumpkin pie. 

Hugs friends....
Pamela Parker 

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