Welcome to Hope for Grieving Mothers

If you are new to this club (that no one asked to join- the one where your child has died), it is best to start by going to the BOTTOM RIGHT and look at the "Pages" section. Under this section you will find resources for mothers who are grieving the loss of their child. Resources to help your children deal with grief are also grouped together.

Next, feel free to look at the "Blog Archives." There are many topics that you may have an interest in reading. As you girlies know, we now have Teflon brains and often cannot have the focus power that we have had in the past. Feel free to come here often and hopefully you will FEEL the loving support that me and other mamas are sending. Hopefully you will begin to see sparks of hope for your future...

Hugs... Pamela

Thoughts and Behaviors of the Grieving Young Adult

This is quoted from www.brookesplace.org
Brooke’s Place is a nonprofit organization in Indianapolis providing support and services to grieving children and families in the belief that hope for tomorrow begins today.
Thoughts and Behaviors of the Grieving Young Adult

Will mom/dad/family be okay?

Will I be next? Concern for own mortality.

Retells events of the deceased’s illness and death.

Maybe I should move back home—they need me to take care of them now.

Will I have to drop out of school or quit my job?

Dreams of deceased.

Feels as though the deceased is with them in some way.
Now I won’t get to know mom/dad/brother/sister as an adult, grow old together.

Who am I without my loved one in my life?

May seek out someone who has experienced death and form relationship.

I feel so alone.

What kind of relationship will I have with surviving family members?

I don’t feel connected, can’t go home—it’s not the same.

I can’t concentrate—can’t make classes or go to work.

Bursts into tears and retreats.

May present without emotion regarding the loss.

I feel angry, guilty, hopeless (or any of the grief reactions).

I miss their phone calls, emails, snail-mail, the communication.

I miss their support and encouragement.

I’m not ready to grow up, to be the next generation, only child.

We were best friends, now we won’t share in life rituals and passages, marriage, family rearing, career, etc.

I can’t ask for help. I don’t want them to worry about me.

I feel numb.

I feel unable to carry on with normal activities.

Brooke’s Place

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