This is quoted from www.brookesplace.org
Brooke’s Place is a nonprofit organization in Indianapolis providing support and services to grieving children and families in the belief that hope for tomorrow begins today.
Thoughts and Behaviors of the Grieving Young Adult
Will mom/dad/family be okay?
Will I be next? Concern for own mortality.
Retells events of the deceased’s illness and death.
Maybe I should move back home—they need me to take care of them now.
Will I have to drop out of school or quit my job?
Dreams of deceased.
Feels as though the deceased is with them in some way.
Now I won’t get to know mom/dad/brother/sister as an adult, grow old together.
Who am I without my loved one in my life?
May seek out someone who has experienced death and form relationship.
I feel so alone.
What kind of relationship will I have with surviving family members?
I don’t feel connected, can’t go home—it’s not the same.
I can’t concentrate—can’t make classes or go to work.
Bursts into tears and retreats.
May present without emotion regarding the loss.
I feel angry, guilty, hopeless (or any of the grief reactions).
I miss their phone calls, emails, snail-mail, the communication.
I miss their support and encouragement.
I’m not ready to grow up, to be the next generation, only child.
We were best friends, now we won’t share in life rituals and passages, marriage, family rearing, career, etc.
I can’t ask for help. I don’t want them to worry about me.
I feel numb.
I feel unable to carry on with normal activities.